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4 Love Spell Rituals to Get Your Ex Back

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Love can be everlasting, but sometimes “the one” slips away, or you don’t realize what you had until after they’ve gone. But you don’t have to resign yourself to mourning your lost love. With some love spell rituals, you can get back that ex you wish you hadn’t lost.

Read on for my top five love spell rituals to get your ex back. Remember that these spells are intrinsic to an ancient craft, so you’ll need some basic witchcraft knowledge to perform them correctly. I will detail exactly what you’ll need and how to perform each spell for ultimate, and sometimes immediate, success. 

Ancient Greek Separation Spell (No Ingredients!)

We’re going to start this list with a relatively simple separation spell that dates back to the late fourth century in ancient Greece.

One of the best things about this spell is that it doesn’t require extensive knowledge of witchcraft or materials. Ultimately, all you really need for this spell is paper, a pen, and a match. Here’s what to do:

  • On a piece of paper, you will write one of two spells depending on the gender of your ex.
    • If Your Ex is a Male, Write:

“I turn away new lovers, new friends, all others new from (insert your ex’s first name here). From his face, his eyes, his mouth. From his chest, his soul, his belly. From his groin, his back, his body. From it all. I turn them each away. Away, away, away. I turn him back to me.”

If Your Ex is a Woman, Write:

“I turn away new lovers, new friends, all others new from (insert your ex’s first name here). From her face, her eyes, her mouth. From her breath, her soul, her belly. From her groin, her back, her body. From it all. I turn them each away. Away, away, away. I turn her back to me.”

As your write, be sure to cast the spell lightly with a positive and confident sense of hope in your heart. 

  • After you have written out the spell, fold the paper into threes towards yourself. Then turn the paper and fold it into threes again. 
  • Place the paper underneath your pillow and sleep with this paper in place for three nights.
  • After the third night, remove the paper from underneath your pillow and store it somewhere safe. This could be underneath your mattress, in a drawer, under some furniture, etc.
  • When your ex returns to you, remove the paper from wherever you’ve safely stored it, go outside, unfold the paper, and light it with a match at the bottom left-hand corner. You must destroy the piece of paper when your ex returns.  
  • Once the paper is burning, scatter the ashes into the wind. 

Love Connection Creation or Enhancement Spell (No Ingredients!)

This is another easy, no-ingredients spell that only requires a pen and paper. Your emotions ultimately drive the spell, so make sure you focus on them throughout the process. Using this spell to bring back an ex is the optimal choice, especially if they already want to return and just need an extra push. 

You don’t want to use this spell to connect with someone you have not connected with previously. This could inhibit their free will and accidentally bind the person to you. You want your ex or intended lover to come to you of their own volition, and the spell is used for additional guidance to open them up further to the idea of returning. 

Also, refrain from begging when chanting during your spell. Asking your ex to “please” come back will actually repel them away and inhibit the spell’s effectiveness. 

For this spell, here are the steps to follow;

  1. Have your paper ready with a blue, black, or red pen. Some mediums or witchcraft followers will recommend using a red pen to increase your connection since this is a love spell, but ultimately the color choice is up to you. 

  2. Write your ex’s full name five times on the piece of paper. How you write the name on the paper doesn’t matter. It doesn’t have to be perfectly neat or in any specific shape.

  3. If you can’t remember their last name, you can use their first name or a nickname you had explicitly for them. A full name will work best as it indicates a more personal connection to the individual, but you can perform the spell without it if necessary. Just be aware it may not be as effective.
  4. Turn the paper clockwise towards you (the long side facing you) and write your full name seven times on top of where you have written your ex’s name. It’s ok if you have to write above or below your ex’s name to fit all seven onto the paper.

  5. Chanting your ex’s name or “return to me” as you do this will make the spell more powerful and increase your desire. Again, don’t worry about how neat your handwriting is or how the paper looks. Focus intently on your emotions and what you want. 

  6. Before starting this next step, you mustn’t lift your pen at any point while you write the following phrase. Along the border of your paper, write your desired outcome for your ex. This can be something simple like, “come back to me,” “return to me,” “call me,” as long as the outcome is specific and connects them to you. 

  7. As you write this phrase around the paper’s border, make sure it is all connected. Meaning, if your last “return to me” is about to end, creating a gap between this and where you started, you should write one final “return to me” that fills the gap, even if it overlaps the first phrase. 

  8. The border might look strange since you aren’t lifting your pen to cross t’s or dot i’s, but the goal isn’t a neat piece of paper; it’s to support what you write with intense emotional desire. 

  9. Fold the paper towards you while you continue to chant “return to me” or whatever you’ve chosen for your outcome phrase. You must fold the paper towards you to indicate you want the person to return to you. If you fold the paper the other way, you will end up repelling your ex. 

  10. Turn the paper and fold it towards you a second time and repeat this twice more for a total of four-folds.

  11. You have now created a petition. You can store this paper somewhere safe or use it for other spells. 

Magical Reconciliation Spell

Now that we’ve covered some simple spells that require minimal tools let’s move on to some more involved spells that will require more materials. This magical reconciliation spell is a Wiccan spell you can use to bring back your ex with the help of some powerful symbols; in this case, rings. 

Performing this spell is an excellent option for individuals who are a bit more familiar with magic and witchcraft and want a more powerful or involved spell that isn’t too advanced. 

Before performing this spell, make sure you have an altar set up. If you aren’t familiar with Wiccan practices, an altar is a simple but deeply personal space where Wiccans set up their tools and materials for ritual/spell work, meditation, and honoring their deity or honoring the elements. 

They can be permanent or semipermanent, but both provide a physical space where Wiccans can focus their thoughts or practices and feel grounded and one with the universe. There is vast potential for a Wiccan altar, but ultimately, they allow users to feel safe and confident in their spell work, which is key to a successful spell. 

Therefore, you’ll definitely want a properly set up and deeply personal altar already in place for this spell’s success. 

For this spell, you’ll need:

  • 2 rings
  • 1 pink candle
  • Red rose petals
  • 1 pink ribbon
  • 1 black pen or marker
  • 1 dish to place everything in

Here are the steps to perform this spell:

  1. Prepare your altar to receive the dish and the pink candle on it. Once it’s ready, light the candle as you breathe slowly.
  2. Place the pink ribbon in front of you and, using the black pen or marker, write your full name and your ex’s full name along with the ribbon.
  3. Use the pink ribbon to tie together the two rings. Rings are a powerful symbol of devotion, fidelity, and eternal love. Using them in this spell allows you to harness their symbolic power for the desired outcome.
  4. Place the ring-tied ribbon on the dish next to the pink candle.
  5. Place your hands above the candle flame.
  6. Speak these words:

The benevolent goddess, you connect Mars and Venus.
You have created the love and the joy that delight our souls.
Bring my lover back and let us love again.
So we may devise an eternal love.
Fill my wish o dear goddess, Amen! Amen!.

7. Don’t put out the flame and let it burn the candle completely. Then, once it’s out, cut the ribbon.

8. Throw the ribbon, and all other remains, except the rings, away.

9. Clean and store the dish.

10. Keep the rings with you and wear them often to increase your desire and the spell’s power.

Advanced Commanding Love Spell

You really want that ex back if you’re going all out and using this spell. The commanding spell described here is an extremely involved spell that will require numerous materials and days of preparation for ultimate success. 

You can skip some of the early preparation if you don’t want to bathe your materials, but we advise that you perform as much of the spell as possible.

Individuals who will use this spell are most likely practicing Wiccans, healers, tarot card readers, or mediums. If you are new to the world of witchcraft, magic, and spells/rituals, you might want to get your feet wet with some simpler spells and the properties of common casting materials before attempting this spell.  

For this spell, you’ll need:

  • 1 skull candle
  • Commanding herbs
  • Love herbs
  • A large dish or plate
  • 3 orange candles (support)
  • 3 yellow candles (support)
  • 3 purple candles (support)
  • Road opening oil
  • Success oil
  • Power oil
  • 3 yellow tea lights
  • Wax carving tool or sharp knife
  • 1 licorice root
  • A sprinkling of tobacco
  • A sprinkling of spikenard
  • A sprinkling of honeysuckle 
  • A few red rosebuds
  • A sprinkling of calamus root powder
  • A lighter or match
  • Man tamer oil (or bend over oil)
  • Controlling oil
  • Bend-Over oil
  • Do As I Say
  • Dragon’s Blood oil
  • Bewitching oil
  • Pen and paper
  • 7 tonka beans
  • A picture of your ex
  • A handful of calorie shells
  • A handful of love rice
  • A handful of magnetic sand
  • 6-12 rose heads

Here are the steps to perform this spell:

  1. For the extended version of this spell, soak your skull in a bath of commanding and love herbs and speak your desires to it over a few days while it seeps.
  2. Coat your nine supporting candles (orange, yellow, and purple) in their appropriate oil, so they give your spell an extra boost before casting. Each colored supporting candle has a specific purpose, and so, you should coat them as indicated below. 
    • Orange supporting candle= road opening
    • Yellow supporting candle= success for the spell
    • Purple supporting candle= power
  3. Melt the wax over the herb-filled hole to seal the hole completely. Discard the remaining wax.

  4. Light three yellow tea lights on your altar. This will help create good energy in the space as you prepare the spell. 

  5. If your candle skull was in an herb bath, remove the skull and clean off any residual herbs or residue before you begin further preparations.

  6. Use your wax carving tool or knife to engrave commanding phrases into the skull. These should be phrases of what you want your ex to think (ex. “I will return to …”). This spell is more manipulative than others on the list, so phrases like “I will love…” aren’t out of the question. Just be aware that you are likely affecting your ex’s free will with this spell, so consider if that’s what you want.  

  7. Carve a small hole into the bottom of the skull. You don’t want it to be too large, but big enough to stuff the following herbs inside. Save the wax you cut out because you’ll need it later to seal this hole.

  8. Place one licorice root into the hole you created in the skull.

  9. Sprinkle a small amount of tobacco into the hole in the skull. This ingredient is good for providing control to the spell. As you place and pack the tobacco into the hole, think about how you will control and command your ex to do what you want with the ultimate goal of their return. 

  10. Sprinkle a small amount of spikenard into the hole in the skull. This ingredient is particularly beneficial for drawing love and can be extremely powerful.

  11. As you place and pack the spikenard into the hole, think about how your ex will love you and fall for you deeply. You can chant phrases such as “You will think of me. You will love me. You will want to commit to me.” These commands and your desire bring power and strength to the spell.

  12. Sprinkle a small amount of honeysuckle into the hole in the skull. Honeysuckle is commonly used for positivity and good emotions during spells and rituals. As you place and pack the honeysuckle into the hole, command your ex to have positive thoughts about you. Command all negative thoughts they have about you to end. 

  13. Place a few red rosebuds into the hole in the skull. Roses are a popular love ingredient and will evoke passion from your ex. 

  14. As you place and pack the rosebuds into the hole, chant, and command that your ex will love you passionately, lust for you, desire intimacy with you, seduce you. As opposed to the spikenard that will focus on feelings of love, the rosebuds should focus on the more intimate and sultry side of your relationship. 

  15. Sprinkle a small amount of calamus root powder into the hole in the skull. You can use whole calamus root, but since we are trying to pack so much into a small hole, it’s best to grind it up into a powder if you can. 

  16. Like the tobacco, calamus root is used in this spell for control and quick results. As you place and pack the powdered calamus root into the hole, command your ex to think of you non-stop, return to you, contact you, and perform all of this in a quick manner. 

  17. Bless the herb-filled hole according to your beliefs. You can create a Christian cross over the hole three times while you chant, “Bless this hole in the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit,” or whatever deity or practice is in accordance with your beliefs to provide additional power to the spell.

  18. Use the wax you dug out of the skull candle to fill the remaining space in the hole. Ensure the herbs are tightly packed inside the hole before you do this. 

  19. Melt the wax over the herb-filled hole to seal the hole completely. Discard the remaining wax.

  20. If your ex is a man: Place a few drops of man tamer oil in your hands, rub your hands together, and then rub the oil all over the candle skull. This helps prevent your ex from straying. Envision yourself working on your ex’s mind as you rub this oil into the skull. Command him to return to you. 

  21. Repeat the previous step with the remaining oils: 
    • Controlling oil
    • Bend-Over oil
    • Do As I Say oil
    • Dragon’s Blood oil
    • Bewitching oil
    • Substitutes (Domination oil, Influence oil, Commanding oil)

  22. Create your petition. On a piece of paper, write the ex’s full name five times going down the paper. Turn the paper and write your desire along with your full name across your ex’s name seven times (ex. “Return to …” or “Desire, love, return to …”. Make sure the names are perpendicular. 

  23. Place the petition and your ex’s photo in the middle of the half-circle of supporting candles on your dish or plate.

  24. Place your candle skull on top of your petition and photo. 

  25. Place your seven tonka beans around the skull. This ingredient is good for luck and love.

  26. Sprinkle your calorie shells around the skull. This ingredient is good for sex/intimacy/lust/attraction magic. 

  27. Sprinkle a handful of love rice and your magnetic sand around the skull. These ingredients are good for attraction.

  28. Place the rose heads around the border of your plate/dish for increased love power. 

  29. Sprinkle some additional licorice root and spikenard around the skull, then place some powdered calamus root on top of the skull.  

  30. Light all of your supporting candles and your candle skull. 

If you need help with any of your love spell rituals, you can always reach out to Mama Anne for help.


I'm Mama Anne from Uganda, the owner of this website and a traditional healer with over 40 years of experience. I specialize in love spells and am well versed in all kinds of magic that can help people worldwide find the love they wish for and deserve. The first time I learned about my innate psychic and spiritual ability was when I was still a child, looking into an old mirror whose owner had died. I found out that I could communicate with the mirror's late owner, and my grandmother noticed the talent. Then, I was brought up learning about the magic in the world and how it can help people. There is love at the center of it all, and I understand the importance of love for everyone.

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